I support parents who carry with them a sense of frustration or failure surrounding any aspect of giving birth to feel acknowledged, valued, manage their expectations and recognize their self worth.
When we hear of words like Birth Trauma, we often think of the physical elements of childbirth and this is indeed the case for many women. There is also a psychological element to childbirth and it should never be underestimated as to the effect that it can have on women and men when a baby is born. Mothers can feel that they have failed in some way, that they are disconnected from the birth or that they were not listened to at a time when they felt they needed to be heard.
Fathers can also feel disconnected from the birth, that they are not able to be involved as they had planned, that events were taken out of their hands or that they weren’t given the opportunity to bond with their baby because of the presence of others.
Birth Trauma, in some extreme cases, can cause Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and can affect 10,000 women per year (birthtrumaassociation.org.uk). There are many others who do not develop PTSD but who are still significantly affected by the birth of their baby and can carry this with them for many years, often through subsequent pregnancies.
I have supported many women through coping with birth trauma and often, the fact that someone is listening to them is enough to help them to release the feelings of anger, frustration, guilt and many other emotions that are often tied into difficult feelings surrounding the birth.
If this sounds familiar to you, then you don’t have to feel this way. Talking through your feelings either in a group (Baby BEAR) or in a 1-2-1 session can help you to enjoy being a parent by working through your emotions and the feelings connected to them.